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Highly sensitive people tend to share many of the following traits:
Well-developed intuition
A very high level of empathy
Conscientiousness
Creativity
Love of solitude and introspection
Strong attunement to emotions (their own and others')
A tendency to be shy or inhibited in social situations
Strong appreciation of beauty
Low tolerance of strong lights and odors, noise, disorganization, and clutter
Heightened physical and/or emotional reactivity to certain foods and stimulants
Heightened sensitivity to change, and sometimes a tendency toward insomnia, anxiety and depression
The ability to concentrate deeply
Awareness of subtleties
Strong foresight
Difficulty thinking, speaking, or performing while being observed
Sensitivity: Strength or Weakness?
Due to their ability to pick up on subtleties that others often fail to notice, highly sensitive people often bring a great deal of foresight and humanity to their work and relationships. They are typically conscientious, creative and thorough, sometimes feeling that they "care too much."
But there is a downside to being highly sensitive. According to Dr. Aron, we live in what can be described as an "aggressive warrior culture"one that values toughness, extroversion, and the repression of softer emotions. This has been the general trend from the boardroom to the entertainment media, and those who do not fit this cultural ideal may feel like second-class citizens. Ask highly sensitive people what bothers them the most and many will tell you: feeling misunderstood, flawed, under-valued or even weak.
Highly sensitive people often pick up on so much in their environment that they can become over-stimulated and need more "down time" than others. While those around them are enjoying large crowds, loud music, and violent movies, the highly sensitive person wants to run for cover, something that their less sensitive counterparts often don't understand.
Sensitive Men
Sensitive men have an especially rough time in our society. "It is fascinating how extensively gender is confused with sensitivity," says Dr. Aron. Men are socialized to be stoic, to not express softer emotions or cry. They may feel constant pressure from childhood on, and grow up believing that there is something deeply wrong with them when they are sensitive. These deeply ingrained cultural expectations are difficult to break, but parents can make all the difference. "When parents appreciate their sensitive boy, as an adult he will have great self-confidence," says Dr. Aron.
Advice for the Highly Sensitive
Accept yourself
The first step toward dealing with sensitivitywhether it's your own or someone else'sis to acknowledge that, despite cultural preferences, it is ultimately a gift. People need tenderness, caring and sensitivity, even if they don't understand it. There's nothing wrong with you if you're sensitive, and many people will appreciate and benefit from your soothing qualities and awareness.
Find a healthy balance
It's crucial for the highly sensitive to find balance. Society pushes us to conform, but sensitive people sometimes get sick and exhausted trying to be "normal." They may mistakenly push themselves into excessive stimulation, too much socialization, or occupations that don't fit. On the other hand, there are those who use their sensitivity as a crutchthey protect themselves at all costs, spend most of their time alone, and don't try anything new.
The key is balance. Find an occupation that utilizes your strengths, and an environment that isn't overly stimulating. Make an effort to learn new skills, find hobbies, and build friendships with people who share your interests. Don't be afraid to take on some challenges and feel uncomfortable, but at the same time, know your limits. If your lifestyle or work is overwhelming you physically or emotionally day after day, make some changes to reduce the stress or over-stimulation.
Take care of your health
Some highly sensitive people believe that they are more sensitive than most people to certain foods and substances such as caffeine, sugar and alcohol. Many claim that a simple diet of whole, unprocessed foods seems to work better for themboth physically and emotionally. Regular exercise can also help people to cope with the stress and anxiety that comes from sensitivity. Getting plenty of rest and sleep is important too, especially for those with nervous systems that are in high gear.
Manage your environment
Try to control the level of stimulation in your environment. Soft lighting, flowers, aesthetically appealing decor, and relaxing music can help. Keep your surroundings as neat, organized, and clutter-free as possible. Close doors and windows to block out noise, if you can.
Hear what Dr. Aron has to say about highly sensitive people in relationships.
A Word for the Less Sensitive
Sensitivity is both a gift and a challenge, but it's a trait that needs to be supported and nurtured. People who want to re-claim and affirm their sensitivity are beginning to organize support groupssomething that's bound to generate snickers from some of the less sensitive among us.
"Some people will look upon us as another group looking for sympathy and special treatment," says Paula. "But we need to reinforce the message that people have different temperaments and to understand and honor that. Sensitivity is a good thing, not a weakness. And in a society where it isn't valued, it shows a great deal of strength to acknowledge, much less affirm, one's own sensitivity."
If I didn't knew any better i'd say you were describing me. I had this hard time in my life at early age trying to figure out myself but once you analyze and understand yourselft you learn to accept and respect your personality and the fact that you have a special gift that not everyone has.
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